Love Your Body Day 4 – You Are So Much More Than A Number

For centuries, women have been told that their appearance determines their worth. Still today, we pay supermodels millions of dollars to portray “perfection.” It’s no wonder many of us deal with overall self-esteem issues stemmed from how we look or how much we weigh!

When I was in college, I struggled with disordered eating and exercise. It got to a point where it was disrupting my day-to-day life. My whole day was focused on food (or not eating it) and exercise in a very unhealthy way. I decided a quick fix would be to find another hobby besides the gym and cooking. I truly love to workout and to eat healthy, but it got to a point where it consumed me. This is when I started my first blog, Lady Melody’s Guide To Music. Yup, when I was 20 years old, I wanted to work in the music industry. I wrote concert reviews for an online electronic music publication and got an internship at Capitol Records. However, the political part of the industry turned me away from it.

Having a blog, even though no one other than a few friends and family was reading, gave me a sense of purpose. I also got compliments on my writing! This was HUGE! I had never actually thought of myself as a writer. My writing style up until college was superfluous and wordy. Math was my “easy-A,” funny enough. When I stopped caring what other people thought and decided to fine-tune something that I really loved doing, I started feeling beautiful and sexy from the inside out.

7 Days to Love the Skin You're In Love Your Body Day 4

Writing doesn’t have to be your thing! Try to find something that’s outside of your normal daily life or career. There may be times that meeting deadlines, landing a sale, establishing a relationship with a new client, or raising children gets your blood going and gives you purpose. But I don’t want you to rely on just one thing! I am challenging you to go a little out of your comfort zone. Prove to yourself how beautiful and well-rounded you are! It can be anything, really. We’re all busy, but even if you do it just once a month, I guarantee you will feel a change. How about gardening, ballroom dancing lessons, creating music, reading, or even community service?

My dream is to create a community here at Life in Spandex of like-minded, strong, positive women where we can all share our experiences with health, fitness, and life in general. It’s so important to have support and love around you. Please don’t be shy. Share with me and other Life in Spandex readers what your new hobby may be! Sharing what you love about yourself doesn’t make you vain, it makes you empowering! You can either leave a comment here on this blog post or share a photo or status update on InstagramTwitter, or Facebook. Make sure you tag @life_in_spandex on Twitter or Instagram or share the update on Life in Spandex’s Facebook Wall so we can all see it! #lifeinspandex #loveyourbody

Health and happiness,


Hi and welcome to Life in Spandex! I'm Emily, a personal trainer who believes there should be no secrets standing in your way to getting fit. I am sharing my knowledge here on this blog in order to help you reach your goals. Fitness should be fun, eating healthy should taste good, and feeling your absolute best is the ultimate goal. Let's get fit together!
  1. Totally agree with this post! If you can find something you love, something that you are passionate about, your sense of self worth increases!

  2. I love how you didn’t let your change of direction bring you down but that it led you to an even bigger passion! That is such and inspiration! I’ll have to remember to hashtag you as part of my fitness accountability!

    1. Thank you so much Angie! Your support means a lot to me 🙂

  3. You are 100000% right! I hate hate hate numbers. I haven’t weighed myself in 4.5 years and don’t plan on EVER doing so, EVER AGAIN!

    If I were ever to get pregnant, I WOULD NEVER look at the scale when weighed. NOPE! I don’t need numbers deciding for me whether or not I am having a good day!

  4. Love these. Thank you for empowering other women. We need more women in the world like you. I’ve been learning to stop beating myself up for having an off day or not eating that good another day. We must learn that it’s ok to mess up and that we are human.

    1. Christine, I am so touched! Wow, thank you so much. Definitely! We deserve self-love, forgiveness, and compassion. Life happens and its okay as long as we get back on the saddle!

  5. I have a love hate relationship with food.

  6. I love the catch phase. Food is an evil thing I fight all the time. Post like these help

    1. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with thoughts about food :(. I’ve been there. What helps me is to choose foods to nourish and fuel my body. Otherwise it’s really easy to fall into a restriction and binge cycle. I’m here for you Angela!

  7. Love it! I do theater as a hobby and it’s a great way to have some fun and accomplish something 🙂

    1. I’m so jealous! I was a theatre concentration in college and I miss it so much!

  8. Back in the day (the 60s) it was “find your bliss” and I think that holds true today, as well. One size does not fit all, as you so aptly point out.

    1. I love that! I always say “follow your bliss” because it’s what my mom has taught me :).

  9. Hmmmmm, Emily, you really challenge me today!! My life is filled with such diverse interests and activities, but which, if any, really give me a thrill, or do I consider NOT part of my typical Life?

    Remember that I’ve always tried to teach you that true beauty comes from within? Well, your depth and insights, your deeper truer, more lasting beauty is shining through and through now. I’m so proud to call you my daughter and my friend. Thanks for this challenge!

    Love you,

    1. Mommy this is so touching!! Thank you for being such a positive role model in my life. These words mean more to me than I can describe. I love you always xoxo

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