6 Ways to Immediately Boost Self-Confidence

Self-love isn’t easy. It includes accepting the parts about yourself that make you uncomfortable. It’s understanding that striving for better doesn’t mean you’re not already good enough. Self-love doesn’t happen because of career advancements, romance, affirmation of others, or achieving “body goals.” It’s a choice you have to make everyday.

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Some days this choice is easier than others. But even on the days where you feel like a total #bossbabe ready to conquer the world, if you don’t have a strong sense of self, it makes it harder to deal with the inevitable difficulties of life that arise.

Learning self-love and creating a solid self-identity may not come naturally to you now. But, with these 6 simple changes in mindset and daily habits, it can become an engrained part of you.

  1. Reject labels

Self-love is realizing that other people don’t create your destiny, you do. You may have heard, “You’re not pretty enough,” Not smart enough,” “Too emotional,” “Too bossy.” Reject the labels that others put on you. They create artificial barriers that are limiting. Just because someone deems you as such, doesn’t mean you have to accept it as truth.

  1. Respect your body

You deserve to feel your best. Show your body love by giving it the movement and nutrition it craves. Stop treating your diet as punishment or emotional nourishment. Exercise and healthy eating should be in celebration of what your body can do for you, not punishment for what it looks like. Food should absolutely be enjoyed; it’s a fun part of life! But, it should not be used to mask uncomfortable feelings. Anxiety and sadness need to be addressed. They are huge opportunities to learn more about yourself; to grow and develop your self-worth.

  1. Be okay with feeling uncomfortable.

The beautiful thing about feelings is that they’re fleeting. The good and the bad. There’s always going to be moments in our life where we have to deal with uncomfortable situations. However, you can take relief in knowing that any stressful emotions will pass. Once you can  embrace discomfort, you forgo fear.

  1. Challenge your mind

Whether it be listening to a new podcast, taking a class, getting a new certification, or trying a new workout, learning a new skill or increasing your knowledge helps build self-efficacy. The more you push yourself outside of your comfort zone, the more natural it becomes. In turn, the more heights you reach.

  1. Give back to others

Have you ever gone through stress, started doubting yourself, and then got even more stressed because you were doubting yourself? Yeah, me too. I like to call this “spiraling.” You start worrying about one thing and then all of a sudden there’s 20 other hypothetical situations clogging your mind. The best way to stop the cycle is to get outside of yourself and give back to others who need help more than you do. I am actively involved with a non-profit called Girls Inc. Just as I help empower women on Life in Spandex, their mission is to “inspire all girls to be strong, smart, and bold and to respect themselves and the world around them.” They mainly work with middle-school and high-school girls who don’t have access to educational resources pertaining to health, body image, risky behaviors, healthy relationships, and academic pursuits, while developing leadership, goal setting and decision-making skills. Pre-teen and teenage girls are so susceptible to media influences and bullying. It’s a pivotal time in a young woman’s life to build or damage self-confidence. I remember being in seventh grade and going through puberty totally confused and insecure. I love getting to share my own story with the young ladies of Girls Inc in order to empower them at such a young age. It’s so important to continue spreading a body positive message to the next generation so they can be the next voices.

  1. Take some credit

Quit underselling yourself! I am very guilty of always down-playing my accomplishments, my skills, my health, etc. It’s time we stop expecting more of ourselves without being grateful and at peace for what we’ve already worked so hard for. Acknowledging how far you’ve already come helps you see how capable you are at going after what you want, and succeeding at it!

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Hi and welcome to Life in Spandex! I'm Emily, a personal trainer who believes there should be no secrets standing in your way to getting fit. I am sharing my knowledge here on this blog in order to help you reach your goals. Fitness should be fun, eating healthy should taste good, and feeling your absolute best is the ultimate goal. Let's get fit together!
  1. I love it! “Be okay with feeling uncomfortable”- so true. There are moments when you just feel bad, yucky, uncomfortable, and the more you fight that feeling, the worse it gets. Time does make everything better, if you let it.

  2. Something I really needed to read. Thanks for posting.

    1. You’re very welcome Joanna. I’m happy I could help you get your groove back!

  3. Love this! This is everything I needed to see today <3

    1. Aw so happy I could brighten your day!! You deserve to smile 🙂

  4. Awesome post! I especially love the part about challenging your mind. A+

    1. Thank you Antoine! Appreciate it 🙂

  5. This post was written just for me or written with me in mind.I`m one of the totally lacking in self confidence person I know.
    It does not help that I do not exactly feel confident with my body(put on 25 kilos in 2 years)
    Will try to follow your tips as I feel im missing out,low confidence mean I`m also feeling isolated as I do not trust myself to join in any activity friends are doing.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear this! Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge. Here it is! 🙂 go out there and do something outside of your comfort zone. The majority of the time the experience is amazing and you’ll laugh at yourself for ever worrying.

  6. Thank you so much for this post. It is true the most important thing is to accept yourself as you are and embrace your imperfections ❤️

    1. ??? thank you love! So happy this could brighten your day

  7. These are all such great tips! I pinned this to keep on hand 🙂

    1. Aw thank you Angela! So glad you liked them!

  8. LOVE this girl!!! Life is too short to hate yourself.

    1. Thank you lady!!! Agreed 🙂

  9. We all need to learn to love ourselves more! Love these little snippets of encouragement.

    1. Woot woot! Thank you Mollie ??

  10. So many great tips and on a subject that so many people deal with! Love the part about giving to others!

    1. Thank you Mikki! Giving back is so important for so many reasons

  11. self-care and self-love is such an important part of health and wellness…and also gets neglected most. i love this post with so many great reminders.

    1. Yes it’s much easier to put others first than to self-reflect and work on ourselves

  12. These are such great tips, and excellent reminders for everyone, no matter where they are on the journey of self-love.

    1. Thanks girl! So happy they help you

  13. Love these tips!! I’ll need to remind myself to apply them.

    For me, I have to sometimes fake it until I make it – put on a really confident-boosting outfit until I’m strutting my stuff, or putting on makeup to make myself feel better if I feel like crap..!


    1. Yes I love that!! So much of life is faking it right? Haha

  14. Love all of these and are super important to remember on a daily basis

  15. Such good reminders. I’m working on giving back. That makes such a big deal to be able to give to those who are in need!

    1. Thank you! Yes it really is

  16. Love this post and the positive message throughout it. My fave is being ok with being uncomfortable!

    Danielle | FollowMyGut.com <3

    1. Thank you Danielle!!! Yes it was one of my New Years resolutions in 2017!

  17. These are great tips it all starts with self acceptance and love

    1. Thank you Deborah! So important to have a healthy relationship with yourself

  18. Loved this post! This is definitely content I touch upon in my blog because self-love and self-confidence is so very important. Great post. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Love to hear other women spreading the same empowering message! Thanks lady

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