Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak

It was early on a Thursday morning when the words, “I think we should break up” were spoken. My palms started to sweat and I could hear my heart pound with each eternal second that passed. There it was, the familiar pit in my stomach of my heart breaking.

After 5 years of relationship and 2 years living together, our time as a couple ended in a matter of minutes. During the following four weeks I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The whirlwind of losing a partner is not an easy thing to go through, even if it is for the better. For the first few weeks, every moment was a fight to feel normal. So what did I do? I continued to live my life.

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My friends and family kept telling me, “I can’t believe how strong you are.” The funny thing is, I am no stronger than anybody else. But, I had aligned my mindset with my actions to come out on the other side of the split better than I was before.

Some of you may remember mention of my ex in previous blog posts. However, I’ve always kept my social life on the quieter side here at Life in Spandex. But now I have a reason to open up. For the next four weeks, I want to touch base on a subject that I think needs more attention. Our health is in both body and mind. Neglecting our emotional health is just as damaging as neglecting our physical well-being. And they tend to go hand-in-hand.

When we suffer a loss, it’s really easy to throw our health out the window. Most people try to avert tough emotions through instant gratification. And it’s totally okay to indulge in these tactics on occasion. However, stable and strategic coping mechanisms should also be in place for when those seconds of satisfaction end.

Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak

What stuck out the most to me in the first month following the break up was that each week, day, and minute felt totally different. One day I felt empowered and the next I worried about my future or felt regret about the past. Though these emotions were scattered, there was a definite pattern week to week as I healed my heart.

Starting next Sunday and over the next month, each week I will be posting the strategic coping mechanisms I used to stay healthy, positive, hopeful, and empowered during each of the 4 weeks post break up. From your workouts, playlists, to your foods, I got you covered girl! Whether you’re going through a break up, lost a job, experienced a death, or any other tragedy, all of our experiences will be different, but I know what I went through is not unlike what many women experience when they lose someone or something they love.

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If you are struggling, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I feel I have come out stronger, happier, and more successful on the other side of this break up. I am here to listen to you vent, answer questions, or help any of you through whatever it is you’re dealing with. I hope that by opening up and revealing my heart break journey, that I can help any of you going through similar situations.

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Read more:

Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak Week 1

Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak Week 2

Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak Week 3

Staying Healthy Through Heartbreak Week 4

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Health and happiness,


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Hi and welcome to Life in Spandex! I'm Emily, a personal trainer who believes there should be no secrets standing in your way to getting fit. I am sharing my knowledge here on this blog in order to help you reach your goals. Fitness should be fun, eating healthy should taste good, and feeling your absolute best is the ultimate goal. Let's get fit together!
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  5. I can see strength in your smile! It takes a special sort of person to really determine to live well through an event that causes such upheaval and grief. Lots of love to you!!

    1. Wow that is so touching Colleen. Thank you!

  6. Glad to hear you are doing so well!

  7. I know that feeling sad and depressed makes us forget about our healthy living goals. But actually, sticking to a healthy routine helps us get through the bad times. Much love to you! And it’s great that you’re dealing with this loss in such a constructive way.

    1. Yes exactly Fabiola!! And thank you 🙂

  8. Wow this is so inspirational! Truly ignoring your emotional health can be very damaging to the physical being.

    1. Music to my ears!! Thank you Louisa!

  9. I admire your strength. I also like to channel set backs and bad emotions into something positive, it really helps keep your mind off things and help you feel better.

    1. Thank you! Agreed 🙂

  10. Hunni, you have no idea how comforting this was to me. The timing is perfect. “the familiar pit in my stomach of my heart breaking”….I couldn’t have said it better as that was exactly what I felt, too. Looking forward to the rest of the series.

    Thank you for sharing this.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through something. But I’m happy I could be here for you! Xoxo

  11. I love your positive outlook! And I totally agree about emotional health being so important. There is something (and someone) even better waiting for you at the end of this hard road.

    xo Jen

  12. Nice, honest heartfelt blog, I hope you find the right kind of love

    1. Thank you, Eileen 🙂

  13. I think the important thing is to love yourself and been confident. Than nothing can break you

    1. Yes, knowing your self-worth is key 🙂

  14. things are always difficult in the beginning, i’ve been there too. hopefully staying busy and future focused will get you through the difficult times !

    1. they definitely did! will be sharing all the things that helped me move on each week so stay tuned!

  15. Super excited about this Emily! It is so true, I just got broken up with on Sunday and really struggling with it.

    1. Oh Kendall I’m so sorry to hear this. I am here for you and I hope this series can help too! Sending love and light your way

  16. Wow. I love this. Felt like I was writing it! Thank you for being so vulnerable.
    Yeah, the after affects of a relationship are so unpredictable. This is a great post for others to read.

    1. Thank you so so much Joleene! Being vulnerable on a public space is so worth it when I get feedback like yours 🙂

  17. Oh my sweet Em. This was such an open and honest story. I had seen stuff on Facebook and wasn’t sure if something had happened or not. I ended a almost 2 year relationship on my birthday in July and while now I know it was for the best, it was also really hard. Much love you way. You are so right. It was kind of funny when it first happened I just wanted to stay busy and I had just joined my current gym like 2 days before so, working out was a huge source of comfort for me. Can’t wait to see the next posts.

    1. That was so sweet of you to say, Dia. I truly think it has all been for the best. 🙂 Staying busy was my MO!

  18. So sorry to hear babe but you are doing a great job regardless! I agree you are so strong, the fact that you are not letting emotions get in the way of your lifestyle shows a great deal. You go girl!
    xx, Kusum |

    1. Thank you Kusum!! Means a lot 🙂

  19. Hi…miss your beautiful face and spirit! I think of you often ..felt like you were one of my own children since your same age . Great post!.Breakups are hard….so important to take the time to mourn the loss. And we must make ourselves happy before we can make someone else happy. You are a strong smart beautiful young lady! Life is just beginning…. embrace it! Much love to you on the journey. Jane

    1. Aw Jane thank you! It’s so good to hear from you. I would love to see you again soon 🙂 xoxo and you are so right!

  20. I’m sorry you are going through this It’s great advice.

    1. Thank you Valerie! 🙂

  21. I’m so sorry, Emily. I had hoped for another announcement in October. You are a strong, independent woman who can stand alone: beautiful, warm hearted and inspiring to those who appreciate all that you have to offer. In my battle to get healthy, you are still my inspiration.

    1. Thank you Janis! I truly believe everything happens for a reason… onward and upward!

  22. So happy that you shared this post! Mental health is just as important as physical health!

    xoxo, SS

    Southern And Style

  23. I can’t imagine how you must have felt. Everyday must have been a new beginning. Will be watching for all your posts and how you handled everything.

  24. Powerful post full of great points! I hope you are able to help many through this!

    1. Thank you Kristen! Me too 🙂

  25. You are so powerful – I love that you’re using your platform and your voice to bring awareness to maintaining a healthy mind!

    1. Thank you so much Ari! Feels amazing to hear that 🙂 xoxo

  26. You raise a good point. It really is easy to get rundown when you are emotionally distraught.

    1. If it isn’t hard enough when we’re mentally ok… right?!

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