It was early on a Thursday morning when the words, “I think we should break up” were spoken. My palms started to sweat and I could hear my heart pound with each eternal second that passed. There it was, the familiar pit in my stomach of my heart breaking.
After 5 years of relationship and 2 years living together, our time as a couple ended in a matter of minutes. During the following four weeks I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The whirlwind of losing a partner is not an easy thing to go through, even if it is for the better. For the first few weeks, every moment was a fight to feel normal. So what did I do? I continued to live my life.
My friends and family kept telling me, “I can’t believe how strong you are.” The funny thing is, I am no stronger than anybody else. But, I had aligned my mindset with my actions to come out on the other side of the split better than I was before.
Some of you may remember mention of my ex in previous blog posts. However, I’ve always kept my social life on the quieter side here at Life in Spandex. But now I have a reason to open up. For the next four weeks, I want to touch base on a subject that I think needs more attention. Our health is in both body and mind. Neglecting our emotional health is just as damaging as neglecting our physical well-being. And they tend to go hand-in-hand.
When we suffer a loss, it’s really easy to throw our health out the window. Most people try to avert tough emotions through instant gratification. And it’s totally okay to indulge in these tactics on occasion. However, stable and strategic coping mechanisms should also be in place for when those seconds of satisfaction end.
What stuck out the most to me in the first month following the break up was that each week, day, and minute felt totally different. One day I felt empowered and the next I worried about my future or felt regret about the past. Though these emotions were scattered, there was a definite pattern week to week as I healed my heart.
Starting next Sunday and over the next month, each week I will be posting the strategic coping mechanisms I used to stay healthy, positive, hopeful, and empowered during each of the 4 weeks post break up. From your workouts, playlists, to your foods, I got you covered girl! Whether you’re going through a break up, lost a job, experienced a death, or any other tragedy, all of our experiences will be different, but I know what I went through is not unlike what many women experience when they lose someone or something they love.
If you are struggling, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I feel I have come out stronger, happier, and more successful on the other side of this break up. I am here to listen to you vent, answer questions, or help any of you through whatever it is you’re dealing with. I hope that by opening up and revealing my heart break journey, that I can help any of you going through similar situations.
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Health and happiness,